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Anger Management: Techniques for Controlling Your Temper and Improving Your Life



Are your angry? Are emotional reactions making life difficult for you and those around you?

​Try these Anger Management techniques and learn, to get your life back on track. Make life more comfortable for yourself as well as those around you.

Anger management is a set of techniques and strategies that can help individuals better understand and manage their feelings of anger. These techniques can help people identify the causes of their anger and develop healthier ways of responding to and expressing their emotions. Learning to Manage Anger takes time especially if this behaviour has been around for a long time so stick with, it will be worth it in the long run not only for you but also for the people that you care about. We have included a lot of information here but please don't feel bewildered. These suggestions are not in any particular order. Read through them and try the things that you think might work for you then perhaps return to try others later.


Deep Breathing

Deep breathing is a relaxation technique that involves taking slow, deep breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth. It can help to calm the body and mind, and is often used as a tool for managing stress and anxiety. Deep breathing can also help to reduce feelings of anger.


To practice deep breathing, find a quiet and comfortable place to sit or lie down. Place one hand on your stomach and the other on your chest. As you inhale through your nose, focus on filling your lungs with air and allowing your stomach to rise. Hold the breath for a moment, and then exhale slowly through your mouth. Repeat this process several times, focusing on the sensation of the breath moving in and out of your body.


Deep breathing can be done anywhere and at any time, and can be a helpful tool for managing feelings of anger in the moment. It's important to practice deep breathing regularly in order to see the greatest benefits.


Relaxation Techniques


Relaxation techniques are a set of practices that can help individuals to calm their body and mind, and reduce feelings of stress and anxiety and anger. Some common relaxation techniques include progressive muscle relaxation, guided imagery, and meditation.


Progressive muscle relaxation involves tensing and then relaxing each muscle group in the body, starting with the feet and working up to the head. This can help to release physical tension and reduce stress.


Guided imagery involves imagining a calm and peaceful scene or situation, and focusing on the details of that scene to create a sense of relaxation.


Meditation involves sitting quietly and focusing on the breath or a mantra, or repeating a word or phrase, to quiet the mind and achieve a state of relaxation.


Relaxation techniques can be practiced anywhere and at any time, and can be a helpful tool for managing feelings of anger and other strong emotions. It's important to find a technique that works for you and to practice regularly in order to see the greatest benefits.

Sharon Shinwell has recorded a session for Guided Meditation and Relaxation HERE


Cognitive Restructuring.


Cognitive restructuring may sound complicated but it is quite easy to put into practice.


Cognitive restructuring is a technique used in cognitive-behavioural therapy that involves identifying and challenging negative or irrational thoughts that may be contributing to feelings of anger. This can help individuals to reframe their thinking and respond to difficult situations in a more positive and productive way.


To practice cognitive restructuring, start by identifying the negative thoughts that are contributing to your feelings of anger. These may include thoughts like "I can't stand it when he does that" or "She always makes me so mad." Once you have identified these thoughts, challenge them by asking yourself whether they are based in reality and whether they are helpful.


For example, you might ask yourself: Is it really true that I can't stand it when he does that? Is there any evidence to support that belief? Is there a more balanced or realistic way of looking at the situation?


Once you have challenged your negative thoughts, try to reframe them in a more positive and constructive way. For example, instead of thinking "I can't stand it when he does that," you might say to yourself "I don't like it when he does that, but I can handle it and find a way to deal with it." This can help to reduce feelings of anger and allow you to respond to the situation in a more calm and productive way.


Using Visualisation for Anger Management




Visualization is a technique that can be used as part of anger management to help individuals better understand and control their emotions. The basic idea behind visualization for anger management is to create mental images that can help individuals calm down and gain perspective when they are feeling angry.


For example, a person might visualize a peaceful scene, such as a beach or a forest, and imagine themselves in that setting, feeling relaxed and at ease. This can help to shift the person's focus away from their anger and towards a more positive and calming state of mind.


Alternatively, a person might visualize themselves letting go of their anger, such as by imagining it as a physical object that they can release or let go of. This can help to reduce the intensity of the anger and make it easier to manage. Overall, visualization can be a useful tool for managing anger, as it allows individuals to gain control over their thoughts and emotions, and to better understand the underlying causes of their anger.


Problem Solving Skills


Problem-solving skills are the ability to identify and address problems in a logical and effective way. These skills can be useful for managing anger, as they can help individuals to identify and address the underlying causes of their anger, rather than simply reacting in an angry or aggressive way.


Some key problem-solving skills for managing anger include:


Identifying the problem: Start by clearly identifying the problem that is causing you to feel angry. This may involve examining your thoughts and beliefs about the situation, and trying to separate the facts from your emotions.


Generating potential solutions: Once you have identified the problem, come up with as many potential solutions as you can. Don't worry about evaluating the solutions at this point, just focus on generating as many ideas as possible.


Evaluating potential solutions: Take a closer look at the potential solutions you have generated, and evaluate each one based on its feasibility, potential benefits and drawbacks, and its alignment with your values and goals.


Implementing a solution: Choose the solution that you think is most likely to be effective, and make a plan for how you will implement it. This may involve breaking the plan down into smaller steps, and setting specific goals and deadlines.


Evaluating the outcome: After you have implemented the solution, take some time to evaluate its effectiveness. This can help you to identify any problems or challenges that arose, and to make adjustments or try a different solution if necessary.


Practicing effective problem-solving skills can help you to manage your anger in a more constructive and productive way. It's important to remember that problem-solving is an ongoing process, and that you may need to try several different solutions before finding one that works for you.


Change of environment to Manage Anger


One way to change your environment for anger management is to remove yourself from the situation that is causing you to become angry. This could mean leaving a room, taking a walk, or engaging in a different activity to distract yourself.


Another way to change your environment is to alter the physical space around you. This could involve rearranging furniture, adding calming decorations, or changing the lighting in the room to create a more relaxed atmosphere.


Additionally, you can try to surround yourself with supportive people who can help you manage your anger and provide a positive influence.


Physical release of Anger


Anger is a normal and healthy emotion, but it is important to learn how to express it in a healthy and constructive way. One way to do this is to engage in physical activities that can help release anger in a safe and controlled manner.

This could include exercises like punching a boxing bag, going for a run or a hike, or participating in a team sport.

Time out for Anger





A "time out" for anger is a brief period of time in which an individual removes themselves from a situation that is causing them to feel angry, in order to calm down and gain perspective. This can be an effective way to manage feelings of anger, and can prevent individuals from reacting in an angry or aggressive way that they may later regret.


To take a time out for anger, find a quiet and comfortable place to be alone. This could be a separate room, a park, or any other location where you can be away from the situation that is causing you to feel angry. Take some deep breaths, and focus on calming your body and mind. You may want to try a relaxation technique, like the progressive muscle relaxation or guided imagery that we mentioned earlier, to help with this.


Allow yourself to feel your anger, but try not to let it take over. Remind yourself that it's okay to feel angry, but that it's important to find a healthy and productive way to express and manage that anger.


Once you feel more calm and in control, you can return to the situation and try to address it in a more rational and assertive way. It's important to remember that taking a time out for anger is not a way of avoiding or denying your feelings, but rather a way of taking care of yourself and managing your emotions in a healthy way.


Journaling

Journaling can be an effective way to manage anger and other strong emotions. When you're feeling angry, writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you process and release them in a healthy way. It can also provide a sense of perspective and clarity, allowing you to better understand the reasons behind your anger and come up with solutions to address the underlying issues.


To use journaling for anger management, try the following steps:


Set aside time to write in your journal every day, or as often as you need to. This can be as little as 5 or 10 minutes, or longer if you have more to say.


Start by writing down the date and the specific situation or event that is causing you to feel angry. Be as detailed and specific as possible, and try to describe your emotions and thoughts without judgment or criticism.


Next, explore the reasons behind your anger. What beliefs, values, or expectations are being challenged or violated? Are there any underlying fears or insecurities that are contributing to your anger?


Once you have a better understanding of the reasons behind your anger, think about how you can address the underlying issues and find more effective ways of coping with your emotions. This might involve making changes to the situation that is causing you to feel angry, or finding healthier ways of expressing and dealing with your emotions.


Finally, end your journaling session by writing down any actions you plan to take to address your anger and improve your emotional well-being. This might include setting goals, seeking support from others, or finding healthy outlets for your emotions.


Remember, journaling for anger management is not about suppressing or denying your emotions, but about finding healthy ways to express and cope with them. It can take time and practice to develop effective strategies, but with persistence and effort, you can learn to manage your anger in a healthy and productive way.


Vocal release of Anger



A vocal release of anger is when someone expresses their anger through yelling, shouting, or other forms of vocalization. This is a common way for people to let out their anger and frustration, and it can be an effective way to release pent-up emotions. However, it is important to be mindful of the potential consequences of expressing anger vocally, such as damaging relationships or causing conflict with others. It may be helpful to find healthy ways to manage anger, such as talking to a therapist or engaging in activities that help to reduce stress and calm the mind.


Communication Skills

Effective communication skills are important for managing anger and other strong emotions. These skills can help individuals to express their feelings and needs in a clear and assertive way, without resorting to anger or aggression.


Some key communication skills for managing anger include:


Using "I" statements: Instead of blaming or attacking the other person, use "I" statements to express your own feelings and needs. For example, instead of saying "You always make me so mad," you might say "I feel angry when you do that, and I need you to stop." This can help to reduce the other person's defensiveness and make it more likely that they will listen to and understand your perspective.


Active listening: This involves paying attention to and fully understanding the other person's perspective, without interrupting or becoming defensive. This can help to reduce misunderstandings and conflict, and can make the other person more likely to listen to your perspective as well.


Nonverbal communication: Pay attention to your body language and tone of voice, as these can often convey more than your words. Use open and relaxed body language, and try to speak in a calm and assertive tone.


Effective communication skills can help to reduce conflict and improve your relationships. It's important to practice these skills regularly in order to see the greatest benefits.


Does Self Hypnosis help with Anger Management?

Self-hypnosis is a technique in which an individual uses relaxation and visualization techniques to enter a state of focused concentration, in which they are more open to suggestions or ideas. Some people may find that self-hypnosis can help them to manage their anger, as it can provide a sense of calm and control, and may help to change negative thought patterns that contribute to feelings of anger.


To practice self-hypnosis for anger management, find a quiet and comfortable place to sit or lie down. Take some slow, deep breaths, and focus on relaxing your body and mind. You may want to use a relaxation technique, like progressive muscle relaxation, to help with this.


Once you feel relaxed and focused, visualize a scene or situation that makes you feel calm and peaceful. This might be a beautiful natural setting, a relaxing activity, or anything else that brings you a sense of calm and well-being. As you visualize this scene, repeat a positive and calming suggestion to yourself, such as "I am calm and in control" or "I can handle any situation that comes my way."


Self-hypnosis is a personal and subjective experience, and what works for one person may not work for another. It's important to experiment and find a technique that works for you, and to practice regularly in order to see the greatest benefits.


Self Hypnosis and or Guided Meditation can be a great tool to help you to be more positive. ​We have a downloadable Self-Hypnosis session for Anger Management HERE All the sessions on our website are written and recorded by Sharon Shinwell. Sharon is a UK qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist who has been helping people to improve their lives for over 20 years.

"This article represents the personal views and opinions of the author and should not be taken as representative of the official policy or position of any organization, professional, expert, or individual."



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