Updated: Apr 30, 2020
Learn some practical tips to boost self confidence
To be more confident, try changing the way you think about yourself. You can re frame your negative thoughts about yourself into positive ones that support you instead of tearing you down. The following exercise will help you re frame your negative mental “snapshots” of yourself – replacing the dreary, old frame that surrounds each thought with a bright, shiny new one.
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1 List the positives Write a list of all the positive things about yourself – all the things you like, things people have complimented you on, your strengths, talents, and abilities, positive aspects of your character, appearance, etc. Write down everything you can think of. 2 List the negatives Next, write a list of things you’d like to improve about yourself, or that are still “in process” – things you don’t like about yourself, etc. 3 Re frame the negatives Now go through the list from #2 and – on a new sheet of paper – write a new positive version for each that “re frames” it in a self-supporting, self-encouraging way, (for example, if you wrote “I can’t jump higher than 2 feet,” you might write the new version of “I’ve increased my jumping ability by 6 inches during the last year” or “I can jump with more accuracy than I could 2 months ago.” Another example might be if you wrote “I don’t like my face,” you might rewrite it as “my nose gives me a wonderful, unique character all my own” or “my eyes convey my beauty and love very clearly.” Make sure that you are still being honest in the new version you write – only write things that you honestly feel. In some cases, you may need to be creative to find the “silver lining.” 4 Release the negatives When you are finished, tear up or burn your old list from #2 (to symbolically release the negatives), and keep your original list of positives (from #1) and your new “reframed” list (from #3) to review periodically to help keep your self-esteem on track. Keep in mind that the idea of this exercise is not to reject your self-criticisms, but to first acknowledge them, and then use them as a springboard into a more positive, productive way of thinking about yourself. Self Hypnosis can be a great tool to help you to be more confident. We have a Self-Hypnosis session for Building Self-Confidence