Do you ever struggle to retain feelings of self-worth when you compare yourself to others?
Do feelings of jealousy well up when your partner pays attention to someone you feel is a possible threat to your relationship.
Do you worry every time your partner goes out alone, who they will meet, what they are saying and what they are doing?
Do you try to keep in touch with your partner when they are without you?
Do you check their emails, mobile phone or pockets, trying to find out if there is something going on that you need to know about?
Do you constantly compare yourself with others?
Well if this sounds familiar territory for you, you are not alone.
Where does jealousy come from?
Jealousy is most commonly experienced by people who do not feel sufficiently worthy to retain affection and respect, purely on their own merits. Jealousy is often a lack of self-esteem , and it can cause someone to attempt to constrain the behaviour of their friends and lovers, but you will know from your own experiences that those very constraints and the emotions that they represent are far more likely to damage the very relationships they are intended to protect
Jealousy can leave partners feeling as though they're constantly walking on eggshells to avoid a jealous reaction. The jealous partner, often aware of their problem, swings between anger, self-blame, insecurity and absolute justification. And if left that way, what otherwise could have been a long and happy relationship is destined to failure.
Jealousy involves a wide range of emotions, thoughts and behaviours.
- Emotions - pain, anger, rage, sadness, envy, fear, grief, humiliation.
- Thoughts - resentment, blame, comparison with the rival, worry about image, self-pity.
- Behaviours - feeling faint, trembling and sweating, constant questioning and seeking reassurance, aggressive actions, even violence.
Feelings of jealousy are very closely connected to feelings of low self-esteem, feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, and vulnerability, but they are even more closely connected to how your mind works, how you process information, how you interoperate the world around you, and this affects emotions and behaviours. This processing of information becomes your ‘core’ belief system. Your belief system originates from your earliest childhood experiences, these experiences are then added to during adolescence, and by the time you reach adulthood, you will have installed in your mind a huge amount of information, some of which you will have rejected outright because it is contrary to your belief system, and some you will accept, and the information that you accept, you will regard as rational and logical. But there is flaw in this process, because what you have installed as rational and logical might not be so. An example of what is known as a ‘dysfunctional’ way of thinking is, “if I love someone enough they will love me back”, or, “I must be perfectly competent and entirely successful before I can be happy with myself”. If these beliefs seem rational, and logical, they will clash with reality, because in the real world, these expectations cannot be realised.
When this type of dysfunctional thinking clashes with others, it causes distress to the person who feels their belief system is the truth; all the time believing that it is others that need to change, act differently or agree with their point of view.
What this Self-Hypnosis Session can do for you:
So what can be done? No one wants to change so much of person’s personality that they are no longer a unique individual, but if negative automatic thoughts, and irrational, illogical thinking is disrupting your relationships with others; it’s time to make some changes. The good news is that with practice, this can be done.
This self-hypnosis session combines CBT techniques and Hypnotherapy and the more you listen to it, the more it will assist in changing how you think, feel and react; boosting your feelings of Self-worth to stop you feeling as though you have to compete, encouraging you to feel good enough about yourself to realise that you don’t need to compete, and the feelings of jealousy will begin to reduce until they disappear, or the feelings are kept at an acceptable level that causes no conflict in your personal life, social life or your work life.
You will find this CD easy to listen to, with no gimmicks, subliminal messages, or irritating, overbearing music. The voice you will hear is that of a female with an English accent.
Note: This self-hypnosis session is not a replacement for any medication or treatment you have been prescribed by a medical practitioner, but it can be used as a complimentary therapy. If you suffer with low blood pressure that requires medication, we would advice that you consult a GP before using Hypnotherapy
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